My daughter and I have been maneuvering being unhoused since July 21st, when we were instantly made vulnerable once we arrived together after being apart for a year while I regained some health I’d lost before this. Once here, not knowing anyone, we have navigated our way in The San Francisco Bay through trial and error. My child is 14 yo and due to her father’s criminal history, she is solely in my care.
Last week I sent her back to Albuquerque to visit her family with our plan being for her to fly back here after Thanksgiving on Friday.
Meanwhile, the home we lived in for the 6 weeks before this, but the only semblance of stability we’ve known, became an unsafe place for us to live and I immediately removed our belongings.
I held off her flying back here as we no longer had a home. In seeking resources and assistance this week, I’ve scoured the bay for help. Being that my child has remained in NM during this time, I alone, qualify for Adult Only programs but they are limited and at full capacity.
We, together, qualify for Family Assistance and shelters but I am not comfortable with her returning here until I have a landing spot for us.
Her high school has dropped her from their enrollment as of yesterday. She is crushed. I am crushed.
I have been scrambling to get us back on track but I have an end stage disease called achalasia that has deteriorated my body down to my current body weight of just over 100 lbs. I stand 5’9” and I barely have the strength for simple tasks and my body continues to deteriorate while I fight for basic human needs.
Over the last 9 days I have slept a few of those nights in a rental car on the street near the beach, obscuring myself under coats and clothing. I can no longer afford the rental car and have returned it. A few of my friends back in Albuquerque have generously helped me keep the cheap but clean hotel room from where I write this since Friday night and I’ve exhausted my accounts to negative balances to pay for this hotel room that contains our belongings but have a place to stay only until noon tomorrow.
My daughter remains in NM today with her grandmother who can’t keep her much longer.
There are other circumstances, events and other details I choose to keep private because they are too traumatizing for us to casually share here that we have experienced since this instability started back in July. My daughter was excelling in school throughout this ordeal but is now without a school as of yesterday. I have reached to those people who have contributed to our hardship out of humiliating despair only to be either ignored or denied my request for help.
I am alone here in The Bay with no one to help us. I am without necessary medications to keep me from maintaining my disease. We are running out of time while I become increasingly weaker and without basic resources.
I never thought we would ever be in such dire circumstance and we feel like we have been forced to feel like we are less than human and undeserving of the opportunity that others have.
This is my last ditch effort to be seen and heard. We need financial support to get back on track. I wish for my daughter to continue her academics and to have stability. However, we are stuck in limbo.
We deeply appreciate whatever you can comfortably give to help us regain stability and to thrive together.
I have not and will not resort to illegal or immoral tactics to aid in our survival. We continue to do the right thing when no one is looking. Our cause is a righteous one that puts my daughter first and makes her my paramount concern.



