So this year has been an incredibly challenging one for my family. First in January my brother was hospitalized for 2.5 months and lost his leg.
Then directly after that my mother was hospitalized and then put on comfort care for a myriad of issues including kidney failure and heart failure. She was given 4 weeks to live. Both of them came to stay with me.
I had to take a leave of absence from work unpaid because she was released from the hospital completely bedridden and dependent on me. I had no help from any services. An aide came in once a week to give her a bath and it was a literal fight for her Doctor to give her the medicine she needed. I had some help from friends and family but the bulk of her 24 hour care fell to me. I lost my car after 2 months of this because I couldn't keep up with the payments and I they came and repossessed it. I had to go back to work. I only lasted about 2 weeks working full time and taking care of her. As a family we made the decision to place her into a nursing home to help her get the 24 hour care she needs. The only place available for her was an hour away. Seeing her has been a challenge. Since I no longer have a vehicle and no income for 2 months caused me to fall behind in everything imaginable. In July we moved into a house I had agreed to purchase on land contract. Since moving in it has been one thing after another that has needed fixing which I understood would happen when I wanted to become a home owner. But it has absolutely made it impossible to save anything. This house was chosen and down payment....my entire savings was paid for before my mom was in the hospital. I'm slowly getting things back on track. And my mom is getting stronger. So much stronger that it looks like coming home could actually happen sooner than we thought.
Then more tragedy has struck. Three weeks ago our father was put into a medically induced coma on a ventilator due to his inability to breathe fully and swelling and redness. He has been in Roswell Hospital this whole time and is likely to be there a while more. He is awake now with a trach and able to comunicate through writing. His exact prognosis is not known yet.
Here's my issue. My main ride to see my dad and visit my mom has just informed me that taking me to see them is too much. I am panicking because I am my moms medical proxy and I need to be able to see her. My brother has no stable place to live and cannot drive and relies on me to get him rides to see our mom. I am the only child of my fathers who can go see my dad and I want to be able to see him and keep the contact between him and my siblings open ( I video chat w my siblings and all his grandkids) I cannot get a loan again due to the car being repossessed. My credit is crap now. I am the only one with a license. I have a sister on the west coast who relies on me for the video chats with both of our parents to maintain contact. I need help. I need to be able to see my dad while he is there at Roswell on weekends. And visit my mom. If anyone can help at all it would really and truly be helpful.
I also have cash app and venmo
***I have not included pictures of my father on the vent or while he has the trach because while they would probably give me more sympathy. He cannot consent to it and I can't put them out there without his permission. They are very hard pictures to see.*****
