I pour my heart out with disbelief of current events.
The goal of this fundraiser is to help pay for all of the things he left in my lap I also was forced to retain an attorney due to his filing for divorce immediately following him getting busted
He was a pastor, she a children's ministry person, he left us with an empty bank account, no car no food . And without notice. He has not paid to maintain the house amd bills, I have been disabled for a few years. I had asked several years in a row to get an attorney and file for disability/ssi. His remark that it would hurt us on taxes.
He knew what he was doing, I'm left flailing because my entire life depended on him and I trusted my husband who was a pastor.
I have so many expenses and no money coming in, I ask for help for my family. We do not live extravagantly, we just bought the home a year ago. A small ranch, that If we moved , we might be paying more for an apartment. My children should not have to suffer mental anguish in addition to things beginning to get turned off.
Only my kids watch tv, no cable but thru Netflix and Disney. He turned them off....to hurt my children?
This man is someone I do not know and I need help because I'm not getting help elsewhere.
If you continue to read this, it's more of the story.
Why am I the one with the scarlet?
Many of you know that my husband was found to be a cheater. He,as a pastor, “had a year long affair” with Tara Bos, also a fellow church coworker.
It’s very hard to see people I know look the other way. I have suffered the biggest betrayal of my life. I left everything behind to follow and support the man I love. To have him throw his passions of being a worship pastor out the window and his family who has supported him every step of the way.
Almost 10 years of marriage & he runs away (literally). I had an incident with the police after he called them after I busted him with clear verification he was guilty,he had me arrested for battery-up to 9 months in jail amd $10,000 fine. I slapped him when he was found out and he still lied. Instead of telling the truth he intentionally had me arrested. The very night I find that he’s had a very, very long and disgusting affair.
He has yet to tell anyone the truth. More importantly his wife and kids.
I had a month where I couldn’t get a grip. There was no information and he would say he wanted to love me. That he isn’t near Tara, he’s not seeing her. No he’s not marrying anyone for a long long time and no way are they living together, no way no way.
It’s impossible to work on a marriage when you are in a 1 year affair that turns into he left me and the kids for another woman. He has lied and manipulated me. He used every means of psychological abuse when he implemented the things from closed door therapy sessions. Instead of alleviating the topic in therapy, he used that as a tool that would set me off or literally drive me crazy , from our very sensitive and vulnerable therapy sessions. Yes, he has tried to make me go away by any means necessary.
Are you wondering what these van pictures are of. Well I was forwarded some pictures of Tara Bos’ van parked at Adam Smiths apartment that he’s staying at for FREE. It not giving his wife and kids money at all. He went so far as to take all the money, spend it and open a new account.
He has not given me any money. He has become someone I do not know.
Why is this still happening and why does it have to be in my face.
If you see me, I need a hug. I feel so abandoned and betrayed, a pit in my stomach that I can no longer bear.
I need and am pleading with you all to please pray for my family and the innocent victims in this.
But please pray that these 2 people will realize how wrong they are and separate and do the right thing.
Adam’s lying to my daughter, telling her he’s coming back home. However he filed for divorce in an expedited fashion, right after he was busted. One day I have a husband and in a matter of hours I didn’t. It is indescribable rejection and betrayal. And it is wrong.
