On Thursday August 28 I went out to get in my car and run a few errands, however, to my surprise I was met outside by 3 police officers. Although very unclear at first, it was eventually explained that I was being arrested for Criminal Trespassing while at my home. This was resulting from my father taking it upon himself to go the county magistrate and tell quite a bit of lies, as he owns the property my apartment is located on. Over the past few years my life has been turned upside down by the proceedings of separation/divorce, which left me with little option but to live in an apartment on my father's property for now. Although things had been going "okay" overall, as time has passed my father and I have gotten along less and less. Earlier this year things came to a point that I'd simply had enough of the horrible ways he has treated me and spoken to me, and felt that standing up for myself was truly necessary, having been put down and berated over anything at all that we spoke about. I simply stated that I've done nothing to deserve such treatment and if that's how he is going to act, then I would no longer speak to him for any reason whatsoever. Ultimately, asking to be treated with respect if he cares to speak to me and have a functioning relationship between us. To say he has acted like a child ever since then is putting things lightly. He made countless efforts to block me from receiving mail, either marking items as "return to sender" or taking them to the post office and claiming I no longer lived there, which went on for months until I finally got a PO Box (and didn't know for some time why I wasn't seeing any mail). At the point I found a good reliable option to upgrade my internet service, he made sure to tell the installers that they weren't allowed on the property or they would be charged with trespassing and destruction of property. Anything he could think to do to be hateful instead of simply apologizing and acting like an adult is how things proceeded. Knowing my birthday is approaching and he wants to make that a miserable time for me, he gave me a 2 week notice that I was to vacate the property by the end of August. (This isn't a legal notice or proper proceedings in any manner, in which he would at least be required to file a 30 day eviction notice that I would be served with.) Even though he asked me to be gone by Aug 31, on the final week of the month he went to the county magistrate and filled out many pages of outrageous lies to say I have been on the property without any authorization to be there, that I have been asked many times to leave and not be there, as well as to say that I have constantly threatened him and he fears for his safety in order to have a restraining order issued.
The officers that were there at my home informed me that I was being arrested, that I wasn't allowed back onto the property, and that my car was also being towed away from the property as well. In the blink of an eye my day had gone from any ordinary day to go run a few errands into immediately having no place to live, having none of my belongings other than my wallet and phone, and my car impounded, all because of horrendous narcissistic abuse from my father who takes no accountability for his actions. In the month of September I now have 3 court hearings, each of which I have to prove my innocence against the lies this man has already told the judge. I am asking for any possible contributions, because not only should I not be convicted of things I have never done, but this man truly needs to be prosecuted for what he has done! Allowing bullies/narcissists to do these things and walk away with no repercussions is exactly what makes them believe they can keep doing it and getting away with this horrendous behaviour! Too many of us tend to always be the "bigger person" and just walk away, happy to have it all be over with. But there are circumstances like this where people need to be held accountable, be shown that they are not above the law, and that they will not be allowed to treat people however they see fit and get away with it! As a child, I remember too well my father being physically abusive to my mother, of course believing he was entitled to do so and would get away with treating her however he chose. I thank God that she eventually got up the courage to leave and begin a new life free of that horrible treatment! But, she was the "bigger person," happy to be alive, happy to be away from the abuse, and thankful to move on. She was treated unfairly in marriage and then treated unfairly through the divorce proceedings. My father told me back then that because nothing was fairly given to her or divided up for her with the home and property that eventually he would give me a section of land to equate to what would have been my mother's, and to not worry because I would be taken care of. Here we are many years later with me having built a small place to function as a home on his property, still never being given any land that was promised to me, and be told I am not wanted or even allowed on his property now. Thankfully a few friends were able to assist in picking me up from the Sheriff's office, take me to help pay to get my car back, and give me a place to stay for now.
The picture used for this is the logo for a community I started 2 years ago called Phoenix Pham. This is an online community that revolves around a livestream I host in which I focus on helping people struggling with mental health, depression, and/or any challenges life has brought to them. Everything I provide to help others is free and all funding is through contributions to my livestream. While I am fortunate to have an amazing community with it all, I do not have the financial means to get my own place quickly nor am I able to pay the legal fees and charges that I am wrongfully facing. Any and all contributions will be a tremendous help to overcome it all, and I am very hopeful I can do what it takes to stop this man from believing he can hurt people just because he feels entitled to do so! I cannot thank you enough for your time, considerations, and any contributions you are able to help with!
-Goody
