Hello beautiful ladies ! I hope everyone’s day is going great so far and continues to be great throughout the day 💜
I just wanted to stop by and finally introduce myself because yesterday I was BEYOND overwhelmed! So much so I didn’t go to sleep until 4 in the morning 😂
My name is Denisha but I prefer Nisha, I’m 31 w 3 crazy kids who just like me was born and raised in Philadelphia. I grew up w 3 big brothers even though I technically have 4 but he didn’t live w us. I grew up in a dysfunctional household where one minute its harmony then the next it’s chaos. My mom and dad weren’t together and she didn’t live in Philly for long so me and my brothers were raised by our father until I was 12 then my grandmother sent us to foster care.
While in foster care my brothers and i started seeing a court appointed therapist which was when I was diagnosed w depression, my mental health was bad back then bc of all the horrible things I went thru behind closed doors, things my parents didn’t find out about until I had a mental breakdown at 17. My depression is still horrible but I’ve been working on it by strengthening my relationship w God again
In 2007 I moved to California w my mom after being in foster care for a year & we still bounced around even while w my mom because she didn’t have her own stable place but I didn’t look at her any less bc she was TRYING and that was all that mattered. We eventually did get our own home but my mom never lived in them w us. Just me and my 4 big brothers. Living in California was EVERYTHING ! I was finally around family that were big on family events and family unity, something I’ve craved since a kid growing up w my dad so I miss being out there real bad. My depression was under better control bc I was around PURE LOVE and amazing friends that have turned family. I got to be a hands on aunty to all my nieces and nephews before I left to come back home and i miss them so much
I came back to Philly in 2010 when I was 16 to finish highschool bc being a drop out seemed to run thru my father’s side of the family and I didn’t want to be apart of that. I graduated highschool in 2012 w a 3.7 gpa and top honors !! Then I found out a week after graduation that I was pregnant w my son 🥰
He was born in 2013, my sweet diva was born 2 years later in 2015 & my Rosie Pooh was born 2018. I went thru a lot w each pregnancy especially my youngest bc unfortunately I was attacked while 7 weeks pregnant w her infront of my older 2 kids. That trauma put me and my kids in a really bad space at the time and sadly enough in 2024 history repeated itself but that’s a huge time jump. Please bear w me bc this is ALOT ! I like to be VERY transparent about myself !
Over the last 5 years in particular I have been thru the worst and back ! I lost my daughter summer in April 2020, my kids were very excited to have another baby sister and then I lost her and sadly bc Covid happened I was never able to get my daughters body to cremation so I never got her ashes like I was suppose to. I’m still healing from that loss. In 2023 I lost my first born nephew, my first son, my first baby. He was only 15 and lost his life bc of the carelessness of a friend while driving 🥺 everyday has been hard mentally since he’s been gone especially being away from my brother and the rest of my family. But it’s ok cuz I’m doing a surprise pop up next week thanks to all you lovely ladies ! 💜🥰
I also mentioned on live that I was in a DV situation, it happened last September and the trial ends the 18th of July and I’m hoping for good results ! I haven’t had a peace of mind knowing they caught him and released him. He wasn’t an exclusive boyfriend but we were seeing each other for 2 years at the time it happened. Still shocked about that bc I never thought he would do that to me but that goes to show we truly DONT KNOW PEOPLE ! I pray god changes his soul and his ways while he is behind bars serving his consequences
I’ve been residing w my dad since moving back out here in 2010 and in 2018 weeks had to move out of our childhood home to another place once a new owner took over the deed & in 2024 my dad was evicted from the apartment he moved us to after the prior eviction. I had been struggling to be financially stable and had just gotten a new job after months of being jobless so I didn’t have the money to help him prevent the eviction. We ended up homeless going from hotel to hotel and struggling to keep hotel rooms or put food in the kids stomachs. I had to practically start begging friends and family for help. Eventually the hotel stays came to an end bc I got into a car accident in April 2024 going to pick up my kids from school. I still have a burn mark on my wrist from the collision and my left wrist doesn’t function how it use to. I tried to stay w a relative for atleast 2 weeks after that while I figured out something for me and my kids but I left after a week of being shown I wasn’t truly welcome nor were my kids. We ended up getting shelter placement ! But we’re only there for 3 months before being kicked out for the most ridiculous reason and afterward I had no luck finding placement again. My children were sent to live w their dad after not seeing him for almost a year bc he allowed his gf, her sister and her 14 year old son to ATTACK ME infront of my 3 children during a drop off. I never interacted w his gf and her family and I wasn’t giving him problems so I’ll never get an answer on why they attacked me. I had to call the police to get my daughters out of that house bc my son walked out w me after his gfs son threatened to shoot him and me. Unfortunately I had no choice but to send my kids w their dad once the gf and her family was removed. While they were w their dad I was in upper Darby stuck at my friends apartment but then she too got evicted so we both ended up sleeping in her car for a week until we could figure it out.
I went from sleeping in the car w her, to her aunt letting us stay w her for a bit, to moving in w my kids dad and grandma even tho I REALLY didn’t want to and eventually I ended up staying w my dad in his new home but I’m not suppose to be there since it’s pha. My biggest fear was having to go back into a shelter w my kids which I truly don’t want to ! Being in that shelter traumatized my daughter and caused her to start wetting the bed albc of the constant aggression in that building, my son started getting sick more and my oldest daughter started getting bullied and it all was taking a toll on my mental health. Food was horrible, bathrooms were disgusting, the roommates were disrespectful and the water was causing peoples skin to break out ! It was just a really bad situation to be in all around 🤦🏽♀️
Life has basically been very hectic for me BUT lately it’s been lifting in certain ways ! My daughter just crushed her 3rd dance recital and I can now get my son into a sport of his choice like he’s been asking and my youngest can do whatever she is interested in which rn is sonic and if she can become sonic she will 😂😂 now that all of the craziness is out the way of like to drop some positivity 💜
I LOVE to read ! And if I can get over my writers block I’ll be able to get back into writing the way I use to, I’m an ambivert meaning your energy depends on if I’m gonna be an introvert or an extrovert around you and usually ima extrovert and a dang goofy one too 😂 I’m into reiki healing and chakra, my favorite crystal is the Amethyst bc it brings me calmness and clarity when I need it and it helps me sleep amazingly when it’s under my pillow. Ima daddy’s girl even tho my dad gets on my nerves a lot lol and I am the only girl of 5 children but they treat me like a wrestling prop and not a spoiled princess lol. I’m very funny and I like to do fun things like go kart racing, arcades, waterparks, anywhere I can release my inner child. My favorite flowers are Crocus and Bellflowers 🥰 and yes my favorite color is purple, the color of royalty 💜
I hope I’ve covered the basics of myself bc I know I dropped ALOT and it may be a bit scrambled like my brain when I introduce myself lol but if it’s anything I missed, anything you want to know feel free to free to ask 💜🥰
I am grateful and beyond appreciative of being picked and blessed by you beautiful mothers ! And I’m definitely going to give back on every fundraiser, I already plan to bless my friend bc she’s been w me thru it all since being homeless and I feel I should surprise a few other lucky moms walking around Philly so I’m definitely gonna give back the blessings I’m receiving bc I’m still in shock about this ! I love you ALL so so much for this & thank each and every last one of you again for showing up and showing out for me how yall are. I’m trying to hold back tears again but they’re slipping lol
