Currently crying while writing this but here’s goes nothing.
Hi, my name is Destiny, and I’m a Black transgender woman. For as long as I can remember, I’ve carried a heavy weight — not just on my chest, but deep within my spirit. This isn’t just about a surgery. This is about finally feeling safe, finally feeling whole, and finally seeing my reflection as someone I recognize and love.
Growing up, I was bullied relentlessly. Before I even had the language to describe who I was, the world told me I was “wrong.” Kids would point, laugh, and ask invasive questions. Teachers looked the other way. I learned early on to shrink myself — to walk with my head down, to hide behind baggy clothes, to never, ever let anyone see me cry. But the truth is, I was hurting. Every cruel word, every joke, every stare carved into me the belief that I didn’t belong.
As I got older and came into my identity, I started to find peace in saying the words “I’m a woman.” But that peace has been incomplete. Every day, I wake up and feel the disconnect between my body and my truth. Dysphoria is a constant whisper that turns into a scream — in the mirror, in dressing rooms, even in moments that should be joyful. It’s exhausting.
Top surgery isn’t cosmetic for me — it’s life-saving. It’s a step toward finally being able to live authentically without fear, without shame. I want to feel safe in my own skin. I want to walk outside and not feel like I have to hide or explain myself. I want to breathe without that weight pressing down on me every day.
But this surgery is expensive. As a Black trans woman, access to safe, affirming healthcare often feels like an impossible dream. That’s why I’m asking for your help. Every donation, every share, every kind word brings me closer to a life where I can finally feel free.
Thank you for seeing me. Thank you for believing in my right to exist fully and without fear. With your help, I can finally step into the version of myself I’ve always known was there — not with shame, but with pride.
With love and deep gratitude,
Destiny
