The first thing I want to say is I have never abandoned, abused, or kidnapped my own child. I went thru DV issues with her father and still have active restraining orders today. The only time in my life I've been homeless/sleeping in my car is the 4 years I was dating him. When I got pregnant I moved myself into a maternity shelter. Attempted to live with him again after she was born, but ZaMora would have seizures every time we argued. He wouldn't pay the bills, smoked excessively inside the residence, and his aspirations were more important than being an active parent and supportive co-parent. So I seperated because I had to make a choice if I wanted to continue to raise him after 5 years and nothing or raise our child the best way I knew how. I took a parenting class, I moved out with no vehicle, no job, no clothes of my own, only a diaper bag with two weeks of baby clothes, accepted state funding @$200/monthly until I got a job under the condition He was put on Child Support at $82 monthly and hasn't paid in 3 years. I still made a way for ZaMora and I. Got our own apartment fall 2019 and have maintained continuous housing. I even had two cars and worked from home. That same year he announced he was having a 3rd child. Literally new girl (now his wife as of 4/2021), new baby, new life. And I was cool with that because I thought that would help him move on and stop stalking and harassing me. He violated my restraining order ever year. So every I renewed it and that piece of paper wasn't stopping anything. But I still made a way for her to see him on a weekly schedule since 2019. He canceled 50% of the time even just 10mins before and I have it on record because I used an agency. I had to pick my daughters face and emotions off the ground numerous times of being let down. Out of everything I am doing to support me and ZaMora literally the man had one job....Be There. I didn't feel like ZaMora or I were being valued or appreciated. I had little to no help from my immediate family and His side of the family never contacted me not even once for a picture or to wish her happy birthday. I didn't feel safe AT ALL because my bd always made a way to contact me threatening my life and my peace of mind. I had to make a tough decision in the best interest of my daughter and myself. As some know, I recently moved to TX. I reconnected with my father after 25 years of absence, I connected with aunts and uncles who genuinely wanted to support and be a part in ZaMora life. I felt freedom for the first time in years because I was in a new area where I didn't have to look over my shoulder or worry about anyone being associated or affiliated with my past toxic relationships. The only thing I did wrong in the situation I'm about to explain is moving to TX without the judge's permission, but I'm waiting my turn to tell my story. July 7, We flew to Charlotte for the first time since we moved because I had to be present in court since her dad had violated my restraining order. I had a friend reach out to him the day before court to arrange a visit with ZaMora and he declined because he was at work, but never asked any follow up questions as to how long she would be in town or if there was another day/time. I personally have called out for LESS. We still had a decent time in CLT even though the case got continued only because instead of accepting accountability for his actions he told the criminal judge we had civil issues because I moved. But despite we still had a good time. My mother was also supposed to see ZaMora while we were there and even bought our plane tickets back, but never called once to pick her up or make sure we made it in safely for ZaMora first flight. So that Sunday we flew back home to TX. Two weeks later on a Saturday, my friend I used to contact him was contacted and told to tell me "turn over ZaMora or face kidnapping charges". I was blown away! Like how would I be kidnapping a baby I've solely taken care of and made every attempt to beg ppl to be a part in her life, but the moment I choose to start over in a better place for peace of mind, seperate from toxic and inconsistent relatives, choose our safety, health, and happiness over everything I'm accused of kidnapping. That Sunday I get a text from his mom stating the same thing. I spent $325 on consultation and $1500 on a retainer fee to hire Rhonda Patterson on a Sunday who found out I had an 830a hearing that Monday. The judge ordered an ex parte and temporary custody of my daughter to his mom based off exaggerated lies and defamation of my character, but mostly because I wasn't living in Charlotte and didn't have any knowledge of it to be present and defend myself. I had never been notified or served anything. The only knowledge I had was a text and that hearing which said the order was ongoing. That Friday (July 23rd) I flew to Charlotte to comply and turn over my daughter to a woman she's never met. My baby was so confused and worried but I had cried all week so at that time I just wanted to show strength. I complied because I knew whatever this woman said about me was a lie. I felt like I wanted to show Mecklenburg courts I was a responsible parent, who respects the law, and who wouldn't want to put my daughter through any type of traumatic experience like law enforcement picking her up and her traveling to NC without me. I made an agreement with his mom to see my daughter weekly specified time and day. Saw my daughter only ONCE on July 26th and have not seen or spoke to her since. I contacted his mom daily to see or at the very least speak life into my daughter who was expecting to see me again and had worried about the situation I told her "mommie would handle and it's going to be ok I will see you soon." My lawyer scheduled a hearing for Aug 9 and it got continue to Aug 20 because the courts closed due to COVID. I cried myself to sleep for weeks and stayed bound to my friends house working and just fighting to stay sane, trust that God would move in our favor and stay focused to make it to the next court date. I never attempted to go get my daughter or stalk the homes she could possibly be in. My daughter is wayyyy to important for me to act impulsively even though it was and is still killing me to be without my baby that has been by my side every day for the past 3years. I submitted all types of evidence fighting allegations of homelessness, abuse to my child, alcohol use, and reasons why we moved. Aug 20th finally came the judge dismissed the temporary custody case based off she improperly filed it and didn’t have an attorney to defend herself or make the right motions; literally everything I had prepped myself for was not needed because of how my lawyer got it dismissed. So boom custody BACK to me; but then his mom told my lawyer and the judge she has an active restraining order against me filed as of August 13 because I’ve been “stalking her, threatening her from other telephone numbers, my daughter been seeing me at the parks they take her to, says my daughter told her I abuse her and my child scared to make me mad, says that the ppl who were with me (her two aunties, two uncles, and 2 kid cousins) to see ZaMora on the 26th threatened her intimidated her from 15 feet away and I was yelling at her inside the police station" Literal BS. I haven't even had a car to get around. And yea I thought about taking my baby and running to MX but never acted on the thought or even considered stalking because I was waiting to be heard in court. I was never heard and all the facts and proof we organized was never presented.
So now I’m tryna get a copy of the bullshit restraining order because neither my attorney or I has seen it and they say we might not have court again til Sept 2nd for the supposedly dv order that my daughter has been added to and it supposedly says I cannot be within 15 feet of ZaMora. But by law I have custody of her. 😑 And my lawyer wants me to pay her another $2100 to continue before Sept 2nd; she also wants me to continue paying her to file appropriately and be present for my upcoming court cases that I had no knowledge of because I've never been served. My daughter is NOT A PAWN! I'm not even supposed to be in NC and because of how court is operating it's keeping me and my daughter here longer than we should be allowing these ppl (my mom, his mom, and him) to circumvent the courts amd file unnecessary and false paperworkand use my 3year old daughter as a pawn in their wickedness. Yes, Apparently my mother is involved and she told his mom to serve me at my last know address which I haven't lived at since March. But.....I thought you put your hand on the Bible and swore I was homeless?? I reached out to my mom and she told me "stay out of the relationship she has with her grandchild I will see you in court."
I'm a proud single mother of a brilliant , beautiful, bundle of Joy! I've sacrificed and made a way despite the opposition and have literally grown spiritually above all this negativity. I'm still paying bills back home and we haven't been there coming up on 30 days. I just want this over with so my daughter is back with my and we can go back to our new home in TX. Will you help me to raise money to continue paying for my defense and ZaMora return to me? I'm grateful for every dollar even 25€. Thank you in advance for your love and support of ZaMora.
